I am just about to go to a friend's funeral and I was thinking about the things I would say to him if I could talk to him one more time. Bobby died of a sudden heart-attack last week. I found out about it on Tuesday morning and was obviously shocked. What makes it even more shocking to me was that we were supposed to have lunch on Thursday of last week. I had been meeting with Bobby once a week for the last 9 months in a Leadership class and we were getting together because he had graduated from the class a month ago and we just wanted to catch up. I had thought about the meeting with Bobby. At the meeting, I was going to tell him how proud I was of him graduating and sticking with the class. I was going to encourage him to continue doing the things God had called him to. Finally, I was going to share with him how much I appreciate him and his friendship. The thing is that I saw him, the Sunday before he died and I had the opportunity to say those things but I thought to myself that I was going to see him on Thursday and I would just tell him then. Unfortunately, Thursday never came for Bobby.
So the last couple of days I have been thinking about how many opportunities we have to tell the special people in our lives, how we feel about them but we put it off until a "special" day whether its a meeting, a birthday, a party or any day in the future. With Valentine's day approaching, I wonder how many people keep from telling their special someone how much they love them because they are going to tell them on Valentine's day. I wonder if any parent has a child's birthday coming up and that is when they are going to tell them how much they love them or maybe its an upcoming graduation and thats when you are going to tell him or her how proud you are of them.
I was going to tell Bobby the things that were on my heart on Thursday but Thursday came too late. We all have people in our lives that we need to share with, how we feel about them and I want to encourage you to do it today because tomorrow may be too late.
2 comments:
I am sorry for your loss Bahram and I am sure he felt your love without you having to say anything.
This is very eye opening and you have encouraged me to speak encouraging words unto my friends, family and strangers all the like.
Thank you!
Dearest Bahram! First let me express my condolences. It's very hard to lose someone close. You have pointed out a very legitimate fact and I am happy you did so. When my father died there were so many thoughts and questions in my mind to ask, and to do for him. I never found the right time, not knowing that there would be no right time! With my last trip to Iran, I was fortunate enough to do all I wanted for my Mother before it was too late! Come to think of it, her passing away came much easier than my Father, with whom I was much less close relationship. It is always about these "right" moments that we postpone what we truly want to share with our kids, special someone, or anyone at all. In the end, I thank you so much to remind me about it, I am holding my son and daughter right now and telling them that we do not need a special day to appreciate having each other in our lives. Also, Bahram! I love you and your lovely wife and precious daughter.
Aunt Azi
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